Happy Friday eve, y’all!!! The BlogHer NaBloPoMo daily prompt is quite funny in that it simply asks “if you could change your name, what would it be?”
Well- y’all, funny story here- every little girl dreams about when they get married becoming that Mrs. his first name & last well Not ME. You see, I had built my career as a communications sales person as Amber Day, everyone knows me as Amber Day, period. Welp- after we were married, days went by, weeks went by, a few months went by, one night we were sitting at supper & I blurted out (which I’m sure you all can imagine, I regularly do- I just can’t keep my big mouth closed) “Look, honey, I love you, apparently we are going to be together for awhile & this whole marriage thing is going to work so I reckon I will add your name but only if the Social Security Administration sees fit to let me keep ALL of my names, I mean we are living in 2012 & I do not understand why I have to give up any part of me when you, just because you are a man & you have a weird part hanging between your legs, that means you get to keep all of you & I have to give up part of me…”
He just shook his head & simply said “I would love for you to add my name to yours, that would mean a lot to me, thank you.” That was the end of the discussion. So- the next day- feisty ole Amber Day trots my hot mess down to Social Security Administration, in my 3″ heels no less, & is ready with my 5 minute speech about how I have paid into the system & I only deem it fair that I should be able to ALL of my names!!!
The nice gentleman says to me in mid-sentence (1st sentence- BTW) “Ma’am (I keep talking), Ma’am (still ranting over him) MA’AM! (I finally shut up)”
“Yes sir” I respond…
“Ma’am” he says very calmly, “what I’ve been trying to tell you is that you can keep ALL of your names, it is not a problem.”
“But, sir, I planned a 5 minute speech & everything for your office to hear, are you sure you don’t need to hear it?” I ask.
“No ma’am, I’ve already processed the paperwork Mrs. Day space Hicks, no hyphen because you think it looks weird, correct?” he asks…
“Yes sir” I answer very sad & meekly.
& just like that, my name change was complete, so after all the fight of the marriage & name change issue I would not change my name ever again for any reason!!!
Until tomorrow, y’all have a great afternoon!